The most common fantasies men have

Men’s fantasies can add a lot of excitement to sexual encounters. They can also help a woman reach an orgasm that may be elusive.

Despite being taboo, talking about one’s fantasies is not only normal but healthy for any relationship. It gives couples a way to connect with one another and explore their kinky side.

1. Threesomes

Threesomes or group sex is number one on many men’s sexual fantasies. Even though it is a taboo, they still think of it and want to explore it. It arouses them because it adds a sense of adventure, risk, and kinkiness to their sex life.

However, if they do go through with it, it can have negative effects on their relationship. It could cause jealousy or suspicion, especially if they are in a committed monogamous relationship.

Some guys also fantasize about having sex with their partners’ girlfriends. This is another kinkier variation of the theme and takes the concept of sexual surrender to a whole new level. But, this type of sex is more often a one-time thing. It’s not something you can do regularly, especially if you are in a long-term relationship.

2. Group Sex

Men and women alike enjoy the thrill of getting frisky in a public place like a car, bathroom, park bench or beach. This fantasy combines the erotic sensation of breaking rules (exhibitionism), and a sense of danger that adds a rush to the act.

When introducing group play to your partner, be sure to set up boundaries to make everyone feel safe. Establish a safety word, and make sure that you have an escape route if things get out of hand.

If you’re curious about group sex, try having dirty talk with your partner about positions you’d be comfortable trying. And if you want to take it even further, arrange to swap partners every few minutes so that everyone gets to experience the full range of pleasure.

3. Exhibitionism

A psychiatric disorder, exhibitionism is characterized by sexual fantasies and urges to expose oneself without consent. It can be mild, moderate, or severe, depending on the frequency and degree of exposure. It typically occurs in conjunction with other paraphilias and has a high rate of comorbidity with anxiety and depression disorders.

For many, the turn-on for this fetish is the thrill of running the risk of getting caught. Whether it’s in the supply closet of a work building after hours or in a hotel room with an unlocked door, there is something inexplicably kinky about having sex someplace you shouldn’t be. The key is to make sure all experiences are safe, sane, and consensual. A great way to do this is by practicing in a safe environment with a trusted partner.

4. Role Playing

Role play is when two adults consensually engage in an erotic pretend game to fulfill a shared sexual fantasy. It can be spontaneous or pre-planned, and it doesn’t have to be limited to just two people — group role playing can be one of the hottest experiences imaginable.

Men often love imagining themselves in scenarios that are off-limits to them in real life, like having sex with an air hostess, teacher, or other female authority figure. Some sex therapists recommend discussing this fantasy with your partner and deciding on the parameters before you try it out to make sure it feels safe and fun.

Other role play ideas for dom/sub scenes include nurse/patient, police officer/criminal, and boss/employee. Just be sure to communicate throughout the scenario and cuddle up afterward to discuss how it made you feel.

5. Women Who Are Off-Licenses

Men aren’t as different as they’d like to believe when it comes to their sexual fantasies. Knowing what your partner fantasizes about can be a turn on, especially when you’re looking to spice up the intimacy in your relationship with some experimental play.

The cuckold fantasy, where a man fantasizes about his wife having sex with other men, is a popular one. Whether it’s their neighbour, their sister’s hot girlfriend or even the woman from work, this is one of the most common fantasies for men.

Gender-bending is the act of performing sex with people who are not your designated sex, which can be practiced by straight men and women as well as gay and bisexual individuals. This fantasy is considered kinkier because it takes the concept of sexual surrender and submission to a more fetishistic place.